I’m sure they didn’t mean anything by it, why don’t you just let it go.’ I have heard this so many times that it’s hard not to lash out at the (usually) perfectly well meaning person who is trying to calm me down. We live in a culture that teaches us, systematically that it is… Read the full article »
Tea & Sympathy
Why the Words ‘I Can Make it Work’ is a Sign There’s a Problem
For several years, I thought it was my job to prove to others that I was worth it. Taking me on as an employee or even as a friend felt like someone was doing me a favour rather than seeing what I was capable of. Treat me badly because you’re busy? No problem. I can… Read the full article »
Why Fake Allies Will Break Your Heart
For all of our talk about ‘allies’ sometimes it’s the people we least expect that can fail us when the rubber hits the road. These are people who might talk a liberal game, but are so convinced of their righteousness that they don’t listen. They may share articles from The Pool or Huffington Post on… Read the full article »
What to Expect When You Start Pushing Back
Few of us like conflict. I very much include myself in that group as I, by nature would much rather smooth things over than take up arms. For as much as I’ve been in the news about suing airlines and being in politics, I would still much rather be under a duvet, saying nothing, and… Read the full article »
The Seven Games People Play to Avoid Change
This is a sample of the SUBSCRIPTION content available on Make Your Own Damn Tea. Want to see more like this? Subscribe! Taking action is one thing, but every action has an equal or opposite reaction, especially when people don’t want to see change happen. All the sudden a straightforward and easy solution becomes a… Read the full article »
Something is Bad and I Don’t Know What
The hardest thing about being an ‘other’ in a society is that sometimes we lack the language to even explain what is going on. Science has taught us that if we are able to put a name on something we face, our brain can literally reorder itself to understand a once nameless blob of a… Read the full article »